Career: Fatherhood

I feel that fatherhood is one of the careers that is overlooked in business and dismissed in families. 

How does fatherhood help me in my career? Well, it all started with my oldest child’s birth. As a 21 year old Air Force airman, my entire life changed when Jami was being born. It was a sudden realization that I was not only responsible for my wife, but now I am responsible for someone who could not fend for themselves. In an instant, I knew I was going to be something I wasn’t. I had to make sure we had the funds to support our burgeoning family and be there when she fell off the monkey bars, scraped her face along the pavement after riding and falling from her skateboard. I had to have the empathy to try to understand her challenges with life, and her discovery of her own identity. 

I am not the best father. I learn more and more what a father should be. I have made and continue to make mistakes.  My adopted father committed suicide when I was six and left me and my mother with very little. 

My step-father was there for me but had no interest in what I was doing or who I was. But he was there for us.

Now that I found my birth-father, I came to realize that fathers (at least in that generation) had children, and loved their children, but were more for being providers of money, and in my case having sex with anyone (including my married birth-mother...twice). He was more about being a Casanova than a father. But without him, I wouldn’t be here. So thanks!

So here I am, trying to be a father with my fourth daughter. As much as I try, I want to spend time with her. I want to see the world through her eyes. I want to help her work through her obstacles in love, life, and soon enough, career. Some days I come home and crash. Some days the weather doesn’t work out. Some days she doesn’t want to leave the comfort and safety of her room. 

Fatherhood is hard. For this reason, I think people should put it on their LinkedIn. A father needs to have fiscal responsibility, empathy towards others, compassion for bad situations, and mediation skills for working through family issues. A father has to look further down the road than just one day. A father has to guide the child in the career choices. A father uses all of the skills of a good manager. 


For the last 31 years, i have been a father. I am a career father. 

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